Strange Days

Yesterday I felt sick all day, I went to get my ovaries scanned, William the Gynie with the IVF registration plate was teasing me about taking in a cup of black coffee which I got to try and ease the sick feeling. I told him that and he said to me "yes they all say that just one in the morning", and laughed, I thought that was mighty unfair because I never drink coffee, so I told him, I don't drink coffee in the morning just Gin. He looked slightly shocked at first but giggled.

So up I popped on to his bed, to have the jelly probe stuck in, apparently my womb is looking lovely, all plump and juicy; and I have 5 follicles developing. When I spoke to the nurse, she told me not to be concerned and to be positive, which immediately had me looking on the internet to find out what was wrong. I didn’t much like the nurse we saw because she seemed to infer something negative from everything I said and make me worry about things that weren’t in my head already; I asked her about the vaginal suppositories I had been sent and she took from the question that I meant I didn’t want to use them?!?! The woman baffled and irritated me and made me feel like a teenager which is strange since I have geriatric reproductive facilities.

Apparently the average woman will have three hundred thousand to four hundred thousand eggs at the time of puberty. An average of one thousand will die every month, and only one of those thousand every month is destined to ovulate. By age thirty-seven, the average woman will be down to only about twenty-five thousand remaining eggs. When only twenty-five thousand eggs remain in the ovaries, menopause will occur in approximately thirteen years. Thus, the average woman begins to become infertile by age thirty-seven or earlier!
Cheery thought.

It only takes one good egg, so lets hope that those follicles each produce a good one.
The reality is that they probably won’t but it only takes one good one to make a baby so fingers crossed.

If I knew years ago what I know now I would have definitely frozen some good eggs! Because it would have been like having donor eggs, although they are better if they are fresher, it makes sense to freeze them.
The medical industry call this “lifestyle” freezing!
Can women really win?
If you don’t wait to have children until you have met someone who wants to have them with you, and you don’t wait until you have enough money to not sponge of the state, you would surely incur the wrath of somebody for being manipulative and irresponsible, but if you want to freeze your eggs so that you can make sure you are in a loving relationship with someone who wants to have children with you and you are financially secure enough to do it. You are manipulative and irresponsible!?!

Ideally a woman should be having children around 25 I guess, if I think about where I was at 25 I laugh. I was at University about to go and work in a telecoms company on £14k a year and in debt by about £6k. A hole it took years to get out of, and then when I changed career sink much further into.

If I had a childless daughter of 25 I would certainly encourage them to be as wreckless with their love life and fertility as I was encouraged not to be. Have a child while you have the energy, have a child when you haven’t got much and haven’t got anything to lose, and maybe have a child with someone who “isn’t the one” but looks nice, or is intelligent or whatever, even relationships with “the one” don’t always last forever so why pin hopes on some ideal. And if my child despite my best efforts, was more like me than I wanted them to be and wanted to wait for “the one”, “the right time”, I would seriously consider encouraging and funding a course of egg collection. I know it isn’t a 100% insurance policy, but it is a short lifeline.

Leaving the Clinic, William the Gynie told me to make sure I got the drinks in ready for when they do egg transfer and walked off with another little chuckle.